I get it. I have been there myself. I completely understand the struggle to accept them in their new identity and maintain the close relationship you valued so much. I know first hand the work involved in trying to be supportive and failing to do so authentically. You can outwardly put up a nice facade but internally you are torn with feelings of unease and revulsion at their new outward appearance or lifestyle choice. Perhaps you are completely estranged from this person since their transition and the seperation is eating you alive.
A very close person in my life came out as transgender at the age of 55 years old, when he was married with two children. I loved the man he had always been and cherished our relationship. I was shocked and by no means ready to accept him as a woman moving forward. I learned the tools to help me shift to a space of honest acceptance that relieved me of my anxiety and left me in a place where I could create the relationship I wanted moving forward.
I am a certified life coach, and I have developed a program to help others struggling with the challenges that come when someone they care about identifies with a gender other than their assigned gender at birth.
“No matter what your background may be or where your personal beliefs lie, I am confident that I can help you to find acceptance and peace for yourself and to create the relationship that you desire with your loved one that is choosing an alternative gender identity. It is incredibly painful for everyone involved when we estrange someone from our lives. Let’s work to rebuild your connection or to avoid that separation from the beginning.”